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Must Have School Supplies For College

Must Have School Supplies For College

Hi guys! With the school year starting soon, I know everyone is doing their back-to-school shopping. It can be a big transition going from high school to college, and you’re probably unsure of what supplies you’ll actually use. Since college professors are more relaxed when […]

Topics To Discuss With Your Roommate and Suite-mates

Topics To Discuss With Your Roommate and Suite-mates

Hi guys! I am at the point now where I am literally counting down the days till school starts- I’m just so excited! While I know this school year is going to be awesome, there are definitely some possibilities for bumps in the road. One […]

How To Make College Move In Day Easier

How To Make College Move In Day Easier

Hi everyone! I hope you’ve all had a great summer and are now looking forward to starting school again. One of the more stressful parts of starting school for college students is move in day for obvious reasons. You wan to make sure you’ve packed everything, you need to find a way to make it fit in your car, and you need to have everything packed on time! To help you avoid some of this stress, I decided to create this guide which covers what you should do before moving in and also what you should do on the day of. I hope you enjoy!

Before move in day

  • Start with a list: Stores like Target or Bed Bath and Beyond usually have college packing checklists and there are also plenty that you can find on Pinterest. Try to pick a list that meets most of your needs that way you’ll only have to take off or add a few items. If you’re a freshman and you’re still doing dorm shopping, make a check mark by the items you have bought and once you’ve packed this item, cross it off completely. This will ensure that you buy everything you needed that you don’t forget things at home.
  • Use good containers: Plastic totes are great for things like bedding, towels, and shoes. Smaller organizers work well for toiletries and cosmetics and you can even use them to store  hese items in once you’re at school. For clothes its easiest to use suitcases and duffel bags the you probably already have.
  • Pack smart: Put similar items together like all pants in one bag and all shorts in another that way things are easier to organize when you’re unpacking. Its a good idea to put heavier items in stronger containers, that way you don’t have to worry about the box breaking while you’re trying to carry it. Also be sure to package breakable items with enough padding so they stay safe while getting to your dorm.
  • Don’t pack last minute: You’ll need to pack things that you use every day last which is ok since it shouldn’t be too much to worry about. However, don’t put off packing all of your items until the day before- you’ll want to give yourself enough time to pack so you aren’t stressed. The best items to start with are out-of-season clothes, school supplies, and dorm decor since those aren’t things you’ll be using day to day.

On move in day

  • Be patient: Some people will be rude or in a hurry and thats ok. You just need to worry about you and understand that this process will probably take longer than you thought. The building staff are probably overwhelmed so cut them some slack if they aren’t able to help you right away. Overall, just try to be kind and courteous.
  • Wear comfortable clothes: Don’t worry about looking nice- you’ll probably end up messy and sweaty by the end of the day so its just not worth it. Athletic wear is your best bet so you can move freely to lift and move items. Comfortable shoes are a must, especially if your building does have an elevator and you need to climb the stairs to your dorm.
  • Unpack large items first: Your life will be so much easier if you bring your largest items into the dorm first. If you’re bringing a carpet or rug you’ll need to lay that down before you bring anything else in. Other items you should bring in first are your mini fridge, futon, and other furniture pieces. Once these items are in place it will be easy to unpack the smaller things.
  • Let your parents help you: Don’t try to rush them on their trip home- you’ll need the extra hands and it also gives them a way to spend some time with you before saying goodbye. They can also bring home things that you decide you don’t want in your dorm and empty containers that you don’t have room for.

What move in day tips do you have?

Be sure to check out my other back-to-school post: Why I’m Excited To Go Back To School (And You Should Be Too!)

10 Reasons to be in a Sorority

10 Reasons to be in a Sorority

With the school year quickly approaching, you probably have a ton of things on your mind- making sure you’ve packed everything, getting your books, figuring out the logistics of moving in- its definitely a hectic time. But this is also one of the most exciting […]

Why I’m Excited To Go Back To School (And You Should Be Too!)

Why I’m Excited To Go Back To School (And You Should Be Too!)

Raise your hand if you feel prepared to start school in a few weeks… Anybody? Well, at least I’m not alone! If you’re like me, you’re probably getting a bit overwhelmed at this point with getting everything ready. But I figured the best way to remedy […]

Embracing Rejection During Rush

Embracing Rejection During Rush

Here is the final installment in my 2017 Rush Series! This piece hits really close to home, which made it hard to write but I hope my experiences and advice can help girls going through rush this coming fall! Before I share my advice with you, I think it would help if you had some background on what I went through during rush last year. (This one is a pretty long and semi-emotional post, so buckle up!)

My Story

Both of my parents had been a part of Greek Life when they were at Michigan State so I had always been sure that I would become a part of it too. Because of this, I went into rush feeling very confident. I was a legacy for three different sororities on campus and I was more than excited to find out which house I would become a part of. During the first day (Spirit Day 1 at MSU) I loved all of the houses that I visited. All of the girls were so sweet and I had great conversations even though the parties only lasted for 20 minutes. They were all very pretty but I wasn’t intimidated. I felt good about how I looked and I knew that I would be able to let my personality shine through. On the second day of rush (Spirit Day 2) I found some houses that I didn’t care for, but that was fine with me since I enjoyed the majority of my parties. I thought I had made great first impressions  and I was sure I would get invited back to the maximum number of houses.

But when I opened my schedule the next day I was devastated. I had been dropped from not only my top house, but the house that my mom had been a part of. I had thought that since I was a legacy I would get invited back to that house at least once. All of a sudden I had awful thoughts run through my head: I was too ugly for them, I was completely unlikable, I wasn’t worth any sorority’s respect, I should just give up now. I had been so sure that I would be a part of this house and I had placed so much weight on this new connection that I would have with my mother that this rejection had crushed me. To clarify, I do struggle with mental health, especially with intrusive thoughts (like the ones mentioned above) and self-harm thoughts. These feelings of rejection only intensified the feelings of depression and anxiety I feel on a regular basis.

Even though I was upset, I quickly called my mom, cried a bit, then dusted myself off because I wasn’t about to quit. I went to all of my parties and came back feeling more confident. I once again thought I had great conversations and had presented myself in the best way possible. But as fate would have it, I was dropped by my new top house and wasn’t invited back to the maximum number of parties. At this point my mental health was in the toilet and my mind was full of intrusive thoughts telling me to hurt myself and that I wasn’t worthy of anything. I had persevered through the ultimate rejection already, but here I was not even getting asked back by houses that had been low on my list.

So I did the only thing I knew to do, I called my mom again. I told her about my mental state (which obviously worried her) and she decided to drive the hour from our house up to campus to see me in person. I only had two parties scheduled for that day (far below the maximum allowed), which gave us time to go to my dorm (where I cried some more), and then to go see a movie. By this time, my mom had told me multiple times that it was ok to quit. She saw how much this was hurting me and knew there was a possibility that Greek Life wasn’t for me. However, knowing that I am not one to quit, she encouraged me to attend my last party of the day which she dropped me off at.

With my makeup redone and my shoulders rolled back, I walked confidently up to the house. At this point I knew I had nothing to lose. If I didn’t like them it was no big deal. I didn’t have to accept a bid from them, I just knew I wanted to see this process through. With a small smile on my face I walked through the door and was immediately greeted by the most genuine-seeming girl I had met through the entire process. Her smile was warm and she gave off vibes that made me instantly feel comfortable. I remembered liking this house, but it had never been one of my top choices until that day. When she told me what their sisterhood meant to her and how accepted and loved she felt, I was instantly moved. The way she talked to me made me feel like this house was actually interested in me, and that she was personally interested in what I had to say. I couldn’t even tell you what we talked about except I remember feeling the best I had felt through the entire rush process.

As you probably guessed, this house extended me a bid (after a very emotional Preference Day) and I had never been so grateful for my need to persevere. If I had given up on rush before that day, I would have never seen my  current house the way I do now, and I wouldn’t have met the amazing friends I have made. In a twist of fate, the girl I talked to at my lowest point during rush (the one I mentioned above) became my biggest supporter by becoming my big (this is all so cheesy, I know). Overall, I am grateful for what rush taught me about myself and that it led me to the house I was meant to be in all along.

My Advice

Now that you know my rush story, here is a summary of what I learned from it:

  1. Greek Life isn’t the end-all-be-all. The process ended up working out for me but it isn’t for everyone.
  2. Its ok if you need to quit. I trust this process and my experience shows that it works, but if you don’t like it or the stress becomes too much, you don’t have to finish it.
  3. Remember your self-worth and that what these girls think of you doesn’t define you.
  4. Take time to vent to someone you trust. It’s important to get your feelings out but it is probably better to talk to someone not going through rush so you don’t influence their decision.
  5. Be sure to practice good self-care. Taking care of yourself physically can make you feel better mentally, and looking your best will do wonders for your confidence level.

I hope my story and advice can offer some guidance for those of you about to go through rush- good luck!

What ways did you deal with rejection during rush?

 

Be sure to check out the other posts in my 2017 Rush Series:

What to Bring IN Your Bag For Rush

10 Things I Wish I had Known: Rush Edition

 

10 Things I Wish I Had Known: Rush Edition

10 Things I Wish I Had Known: Rush Edition

Looking back on Rush, there are a lot of things I wish I could tell my past self, and I'm sure girls who are in houses currently feel the same way. While the experience is different for everyone, here are a few pieces of advice […]

What To Bring In Your Bag For Rush

What To Bring In Your Bag For Rush

Starting Rush can be an intimidating process, which is why I am creating this series to help out girls wanting to rush in the Fall. An important aspect of Rush is being prepared, which is why I decided to start with this post. Bringing a […]


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